Posted by Glynis Sherwood on Monday, August 29, 2011 In : Loss
These days I find myself being contacted regularly by people wanting counselling and coaching to deal with the pain of workplace bullying. By pain I mean the psychological, emotional and spiritual hurt that comes from being abused and scapegoated on the job. This is a trend that reflects a 'crisis of civility' in the work world, but also, more encouragingly, the growing reluctance of people to allow themselves to subjecte... Continue reading...
Posted by Glynis Sherwood on Monday, August 8, 2011 In : Loss
Over
the past couple of weeks I took some vacation time. This was planned.
What wasn't planned was that I would be spending it nursing Cleveland,
my dear cat and recently diagnosed cancer patient. Cleveland is being
treated holistically, meaning the emphasis is on diet, supplements and
TLC, rather than toxic chemotherapy or the fires of radiation. Not that
these treatments haven't been a life saver for many. But the fact is,
the more I study up on cancer treatment, the more I am l... Continue reading...
Posted by Glynis Sherwood on Monday, July 18, 2011 In : Loss
In my previous post I wrote about my cat Cleveland who was recently diagnosed with cancer. As his principle care giver I have many difficult and unclear decisions to make about the kind of treatment to opt for and how to care for him on a day to day basis. I am also living with not knowing if the choices I am making will help or hinder him. Hardest of all is not knowing how long he may live - weeks, months or years. Uncertainty is the constant theme in the job of the care giver. This is ... Continue reading...
Posted by Glynis Sherwood on Monday, July 4, 2011 In : Loss
Today I took my beloved tabby cat Cleveland for yet another surgical intervention to deal with his severe chronic respiratory disease. He's a brave, loving and determined little fellow who has just barely bypassed the grim reaper on several occasions. This time his vet is looking for everything from a fungus infection to cancer. Cleveland's life started out rough in a wealthy but unloving home where he was unwanted, to abandonment at a 'No Kill' shelter where we found each other. He is no... Continue reading...
Posted by Glynis Sherwood on Friday, June 17, 2011 In : Grief Recovery
What Does Grief Recovery Mean Exactly?
There’s a saying in grief recovery that: 'It’s not that the boulder gets smaller, but that our shoulders get stronger'. To me what this points to is that grief can’t be ‘cured’. For in order to grief to be cured the loss would have to be erased, which is not possible. Grief is a response to the psychological ‘injury’ of loss. The pain of the injury can be healed, but leaves a scar. But if we grieve in a healthy fashion, our loss can... Continue reading...
Posted by Glynis Sherwood on Wednesday, June 8, 2011 In : Grief Recovery
Time plus ‘Right’ Action Helps to Heal the Pain of Grief
Distraction Does Not Equal Healing
The myth that those in grief should just stay busy is a lot like myth #1 - Time Heals All Wounds. And like that myth, staying busy in itself does not promote healing, just as time does nothing but pass unless you do something constructive with it. But grieving people often hear from other well intended people that if they stay active then grief won’t get a negative hold over their lives. Thi... Continue reading...
Posted by Glynis Sherwood on Monday, May 30, 2011 In : Grief Recovery
Putting Others Ahead Of Yourself While Grieving Is Simply the Wrong Order
The idea that you should be strong for others is another grief myth that tends to start in childhood, when we are taught that it is somehow more appropriate to put other’s needs ahead of our own. This myth is a double bind as it implies that we deny our own emotions while at the same time be sensitive to the feelings of others. This strikes me as an impossible and irrational feat. And rather than being noble or... Continue reading...
Posted by Glynis Sherwood on Tuesday, May 24, 2011 In : Grief Recovery
Grieving Alone – A Recipe For Loneliness & Isolation
Do grievers withdraw by nature or due to shame and stigma for feeling upset? The idea that you should grieve alone almost always comes from social taboos against expressing painful emotions in public. Unless those in grief choose to grieve alone, this myth keeps others comfortable, while doing nothing for the griever except adding loneliness to the already painful experience of loss. Much like Myth #2 – Don’t Feel Bad, the belief... Continue reading...
Posted by Glynis Sherwood on Friday, May 13, 2011 In : Grief & Addiction Recovery
Remembering Gary
Last Friday I learned that my old friend Gary had died a few years ago. Prematurely gone. What's shocking is that he died so young. But what's more shocking is that I knew he was gone for many years. Not 'knew' in the facts sense, but intuitively, as I had sensed many years ago that his time had run out. It's a terrible feeling to know that about someone who is still walking around. Someone that you love. Alcohol ultimately killed Gary, or should I say he let it kill ... Continue reading...
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With a twenty year history of counselling and consulting experience, I help people recover from Grief and Loss, Trauma, Addictions, Stress, Anxiety, Depression, and Workplace Bullying. My company - Recovery Counselling Solutions - offers specialized services designed to help people overcome these life challenges. Recovery Counselling focuses on helping people heal from emotional distress and injury, and helps restore and strengthen the psychological well being of individuals and their loved ones. I provide counselling and consulting at my office in central Vancouver, and WorldWide by telephone and internet. My belief is that no matter how harmful grief, psychological challenges or addictions have been in your life, you can recover and live a life of happiness, fufillment and purpose!
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